how to tell a girl i have no desire for sex?

[Horioz]

why should the girl bother with you? Who in their right mind would want to go out with you and give up a sex life because you are too selfish to get your C*** out?

I hope she see's you for what you are and dumps you like a hot brick. She deserves better, including a nice man who wants her sexually and loves her, not some deluded clown who wants to have sex with the air.

Alright hitler, You think all women think exactly the same thing?


Because all women want to have sex right? People who do not want sex are not worthy. People who have had different lives to your own and don't think the same way are dysfunctional. There must be something wrong with them. Therefore they should be ostracized and left to die alone.

This is your mind.


You are so incredibly feeble minded. I suggest you stop posting your unproductive, potentially damaging bullsh.

All you are doing here is showing how small your comprehension of the universe is. How little life experience you have.

If you think you can defend yourself somehow please try and I will take pleasure in taking your minds failings and posting them onto the board.

You may even get some education out of it.

Until then

[Guest]

ok let me put it another way, if you get a girl who would be willing to give up her sex life to be your girlfriend, she might do it for abit until she gets bored, then she'll eventually want sex elsewhere, so if you end up married, she may start affairs with other men, and you'll end upsubjected to cuckholdry.

[Guest]

The man probably wants to be cuckholded, for free house and board, I would gladly cuckhold him. Not having sex with him would be the most enjoyable, as you wouldn't have to get interpersonal at all.

[Guest]

ok let me put it another way, if you get a girl who would be willing to give up her sex life to be your girlfriend, she might do it for abit until she gets bored, then she'll eventually want sex elsewhere, so if you end up married, she may start affairs with other men, and you'll end upsubjected to cuckholdry.

Once again you have completely missed my point.

Some women DO NOT want to have sex. (although a minority they certainly do exist).

Can you comprehend this?


This man wants a girlfreind who has no desire for sex also but can form a relationship on a cerebral level only. (maybe better defined as a partnership).


"The man probably wants to be cuckholded, for free house and board, I would gladly cuckhold him. Not having sex with him would be the most enjoyable, as you wouldn't have to get interpersonal at all."



I ask you why a woman with no desire for sex would commit adultery?


With regard to gold diggers. I think you also have a chance of that in a sexual relationship. In this one the prostitute would not have to pay in sex, so yeah I can see the advantages.

You are also immoral using sex as a tool to get free house and board. You should help the man pay for your living costs.
I do however agree with how you can separate sex from emotion.

[Guest]

It wouldn't work because the woman would eventually suffer the consequences of an affectionless union. She wouldn't get anything out of the relationship but a companion and free board. Fair enough if she's studying or putting on a front because the guy is gay. But if she's with someone who won't give affection to anything but print media and the elements, eventually she'll stray.

[Guest]

It wouldn't work because the woman would eventually suffer the consequences of an affectionless union. She wouldn't get anything out of the relationship but a companion and free board. Fair enough if she's studying or putting on a front because the guy is gay. But if she's with someone who won't give affection to anything but print media and the elements, eventually she'll stray.

Once again you are associating sex with the only part of affection. As if you cannot separate the two. warm emotional (not passionate) Hugs/Kisses etc are also signs of affection. Eye gazes with loving intent are also signs of affection. Physical actions such as buying a gift or doing something really nice for no apparent reason are signs of affection (they show you care deeply for the other half).


Some people are emotionally dependent on sex (for validation etc which sounds like what your views are based upon). This is understood and accepted. ( I could go into why you hold sex in high priority as self validation but I'd rather you thought about that yourself).

However some people do not have the same views/needs.

Also something to think about is when you reach an age where sex is no longer possible then how do you show affection to your loved ones?

Does this mean every grandma in the world is going to go commit adultery or file a divorce?

If the guy is gay he would be unlikely to really get into that kind of relationship with a woman, don't you think?


Please understand that there is no defined way that relationships work as they are a complex procedure of adaptations to suit each others want, which is entirely situationally based.


To say you can only have a relationship with this certain methodology is completely unfounded and cannot possibly be proven.


In a more general sense, You can never win an argument based on your opinions alone unless it is something that is morally indefensible (i.e. child abuse).

If you push your opinions on others as the only way it is accepted, what does that trigger in your mind?

[Same guy as above]

It should trigger a defensive response questioning why his opinions are right and yours are wrong.

This will more that likely be taken as an attack on your own validation(that your opinions are justified). Therefore without any factually based reason to prove why your opinions are invalid and should be changed, you will write off the aggressor as a ignorant pompous bigot.


The only thing I could possibly wish for now is that you don't ignore me (because you may see me as an opponent in this argument), but please try and take the train of thought.


It will definitely be useful for your future life.

I would certainly like to hear any statements.

[Guest]

I can understand it if you are both over seventy. But I personally need and sex and I couldn't justify giving up my sex life and all the pleasure that comes with F****** for a man who wants me to sit around cooking, whilst he jacks off to vintage pornos.

[Guest]

I can understand it if you are both over seventy. But I personally need and sex and I couldn't justify giving up my sex life and all the pleasure that comes with F****** for a man who wants me to sit around cooking, whilst he jacks off to vintage pornos.

Thats a little better. Now what if you had the mentality of a seventy year old in a body of a 25 year old?

Sorry to sound harsh but if you don't understand how people under 70 can survive in a relationship without wanting/having sex then you shouldn't really comment about how he should tell her that he didn't want any. (which was the original question).


You don't have the prerequisites required to make an informed decision. You are only able to respond as if you were asked the question yourself, Rather than from the question askers point of view.

In those situations, the wording can make all the difference.

[Guest]

I can understand it if you are both over seventy. But I personally need and sex and I couldn't justify giving up my sex life and all the pleasure that comes with F****** for a man who wants me to sit around cooking, whilst he jacks off to vintage pornos.

Thats a little better. Now what if you had the mentality of a seventy year old in a body of a 25 year old?

Sorry to sound harsh but if you don't understand how people under 70 can survive in a relationship without wanting/having sex then you shouldn't really comment about how he should tell her that he didn't want any. (which was the original question).


You don't have the prerequisites required to make an informed decision. You are only able to respond as if you were asked the question yourself, Rather than from the question askers point of view.

In those situations, the wording can make all the difference.

He wants a woman who should not expect sex or affection, while he enjoys a sex life through masturbating and visual stimulation. He'll pay for food and board while she acts as his girlfriendd. Fair enough is she knows what she's getting in to, but women are wiser than this. He will be used and cuckholded eventually. She'll be out there having the time of her life making him look like a clown, getting free board, food, television and all mod cons. He'll think he has a submissive companion, playing girlfriend, but the reality will be much different. If he wants to turn a blind eye let him.

[coolman]

He should just have sex with her, stand up when he's done and shout, "Damn, that sucked. Never doing that again". She'll get the picture.

[Guest]

He is asking to be cuckholded, he'll end up bing walked all over like a wet towel on a dirty floor. Women will see him coming.

[coolman]

Women will see him coming.

I think that is what he is trying to avoid!

[Guest]

Women will see him coming.

I think that is what he is trying to avoid!

[Guest]

typical sado masochist, wants a fit woman to keep as a companion, but deprive her of sex and affection, under the tag of "Lover", but not really a lover, just to F*** with her head for his own sick pleasure while he has sex with God?????????????????????

Run for the hills.