School Crush

unknown writes:

I realli lyk sum1 in my year sumtymes i even wunder if i love them.....but i think my friend lyks them too but my friend is soo obvious with it....but if i told her i lyked him i hav a feelin she might flirt mor wiv him .......but then i dnt wanna crush her by tellin her i lyk him wen i think she duz too......wot should i do please help......plus could you giv me some tips on how to act around him to let him kno i lyk him but not make it too obvious to everyone ...HELP ! xxxxxx

Yin's Answer

School crushes can be really hard. Boys of your age are rubbish at expressing how they feel and would usually rather kick and ball around a field than get romantic.

The best way to get to know him and to get him to notice you is to be his friend. Just be yourself and be friendly to him. Try and strike up a friendly conversation about something you are both interested in and go from there.

As for your friend- she might be more confident and obvious with her flirting but this boy is capable of making his own mind up about who he likes. Don't try and compete with her because he will see straight through it. If you be yourself but still he does turn out to like your friend then you know that it probably wouldn't have worked out. There are plenty more fish in the sea and trust me you will meet many more nice boys before you settle down- enjoy being young while it lasts.

Yang's Answer

Romance at your age can be a bloody nightmare! Boys are usually still quite immature and still think pulling your hair is flirting. So it's really hard work for us girls!

The most important thing to remember is to just be yourself and never ever forget that. As soon as you start changing who you are to impress this boy he will see straight through it. You want him to like you for who you are and if he doesn't then sod him!

This doesn't mean you can't give him a nudge in the right direction though. Try and establish what things you have in common and try starting a conversation about one of them with him. Or another thing to remember is that boys of this age are so easily influenced by their friends. So why not try chatting to his mates and being friendly to them. If you get on with his mates the chances are you will come up in conversation more often and he will soon notice you.

Leave your friend to her 'obvious flirting'- the subtle approach is just as effective. And remember no one owns this boy so if it turns out he likes you not her then you that's Ok. All is fair in love and war!