Sordid Affair

HOPE writes:

I'm a 28 year old married woman, I have two kids and my husband is wonderful but I cant help thinking about this guy I met a few weeks ago through work.

I told him how I feel and he said he felt the same way and we ended up having sex (protected) he's also married and we enjoy each other's company.

The reason why I think I felt this way about this guy is because of the way he touches, and kisses me, I havent felt this in a very long time.

Do you think I'm doing the right thing, finding pleasure out side of my marriage?

Yin's Answer

You may feel that you are torn between these two people, but at the end of the day, there are too many lives being played with in such a precarious situation.

Your husband doesn't deserve to be treated like this, and I am sure he would be devestated if he knew, as you would be if he was having an affair.

Do you really want to be responsible for the break up of your family. It wouldn't just come to divorce, but custody battles and money worries etc.

But if you really think that this new man is worth all of that, then please, put your husband out of his misery and end you dirty affair and come clean about the whole situation.

Otherwise, things will turn really nasty.

Yang's Answer

You need to have a good look at yourself and consider what is that makes you feel it necessary to go outside of your marriage for sex.

DON'T lead your husband along, he doesn't deserve it. I find it laughable that in the first sentence you can say he is "wonderful" and in the second you can say you had sex with another man, and then do I think you're doing the right thing?!

Do you seriously think that anyone in their right mind would agree with what you are doing. So many people are set out for being hurt - forgetting your husband, what about your children?! Perfect role model.. but then again, you don't give a toss anyway, look out for number one ay?

Get a grip!